Toxic masculinity is not saying that men are bad or that being strong or upfront is bad.
It is also not the idea that being feminine for men is right.
It is saying that the idea that men always have to be strong, always be commanding, always be in control, never accept a rejection, never give up, and must never be emotional is not always the right thing.
It is the idea that you can ask for help.
They call it toxic because these stereotypes like men must never cry are toxic to themselves and others. Consider the suicide rate for men, much of it is caused because they were taught they must be brining in money or they have to have gottn the girl. Basically social norms thar caused un warrented stress and then lead to them not seeking help because that makes one look weak.
People who are againat it want you to be who you are and be able to ask for help, etc.
It has nothing to do with looks. So please dont be misleading.